The Bullying Parents

Parents who lack patience or proper parenting skills usually resort to aggression and bullying to control and discipline their children. Know that when you use aggression to solve problems as a parent,  it comes at a cost. While it may appear that you have won, you may have created a bigger problem for yourself and the society. 

Children who are raised by aggressive parents most likely become abusive. They feel unloved and because they have not been shown love, they can't love people. Of course, they cannot give what they do not have. 

One of the problems with aggressive parenting and harsh punishments is that when the child leaves the home, they don’t know how to behave on their own. And then they get into the kind of trouble that the parents were afraid of in the first place. Your bullying method becomes counterproductive. 

Dear aggressive parents,  learn something this season. 

Be authoritative, not authoritarian. 
Learn self control. 
Love your children. 

Domestic violence is not just about you and your spouse. It includes how you treat your kids. 

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Comments

  1. LouisFebruary 11, 2021 at 11:35 PM

    My generation was groomed this way. I lived on canes, kobokos and wires growing up as my dad never ever spared the rods or the wires. You go against the rules, you're done for, it was a bootcamp.

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    1. The Human ProjectFebruary 22, 2021 at 8:57 AM

      I can totally relate. We will do better, now that we have learned. Thank you, Louis.

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